Welcome to Lingerie For Two.
While lingerie may serve a practical purpose, we will focus here on the more esoteric uses of lingerie. It can enhance a woman’s beauty. It can serve as a seduction tool. Lingerie can be used as a role playing device in lovemaking. I will address these purposes below.
Lingerie can enhance a woman’s beauty.
The softness of silk, the elegance of lace, the style and color of lingerie design can all enhance the beauty of the woman who wears it. Attention to these details are important as a woman selects lingerie. It should always flatter her body style and size.
Generally, it should focus attention on the bust and either accent the hips or cover a larger hip. In other words, consider what the style of the lingerie focuses on.
Always accent your best features and play down any less than perfect parts of anatomy. Even the cut of the leg opening can help to elongate a shorter leg. A darker band around the waist can both accent the waist and create an illusion of a smaller waist. Consider these things as you select lingerie.
Color makes a statement in lingerie as in many things. White can indicate pure, innocent, and fresh while red can signal energy, confidence, a bit of naughtiness. Black is almost universally flattering and can signal sophistication, allure and seduction. Pastels can be exceptionally flattering to many bronze to fair skin tones and certain personality types though on other very fair skin types can appear washed out or faded. Prints can work well if you pay attention to the style of the print and color. What does the print imply? Pay attention to these things as they help to create the effect lingerie will create.
It can serve as a seduction tool.
Your lingerie can be a clear indicator of intent, of style, and of mood. When you appear before your partner (male or female) in lingerie, what statement are you making. Consider your partner’s personality and how they will interpret the message you are sending with your selection of lingerie.
Everyday cotton traditionally cut may say business as usual. It may create a “girl next door” effect and should always be very fresh and in perfect repair. Cotton is especially good for every day wear as it is absorbant and has the ability to “breathe” and works very well for a woman’s body. It is considered healthier than most other fabrics for longer wearing times. Many people find cotton a good choice when making the statements that the wearer is fresh, clean, youthful and sincere. There is something very seductive in these statements. Lingerie does have a limited amount of usefulness and should be replaced if it begins to show any signs of wear.
Silk. satins, and many manmade fabrics are appropriate for evening wear or for any time a woman wants to appear more feminine or seductive. There is nothing like a lovely silk teddie, bustier or garter to make a woman feel special, seductive and pampered. When you feel these things, you become special and seductive, elegant and sophisticated. Because of the expense of fine silk, it is perfectly okay to choose manmade fabrics as an alternative to silk. The addition of lace can increase the look of femininity, elegance and sophistication.
A word about leather…. Leather can be a great choice in corsets, bustiers, garters, skirts and dresses. With the right attitude, it emphasises confidence and exudes a type of wantoness and naughtyness that your partner may find very exciting. A few choice pieces of nice leather lingerie can be a fun part of any lingerie collection.
Lingerie can be used as a role playing device in lovemaking.
I always find it particuarly effective to give my partner a glimpse of the lingerie I have chosen for the evening. It can linger in the back of their mind throughout the dinner, concert, play or party we attend. It gives a not so subtle indication about what is in store at the evenings end and can be particuarly erotic. Just a glimpse as you are dressing or a full show as you stroll across the floor will accomplish this effect nicely.
Sexual relationships are an important part of life and it is well worth the effort to enhance them with the use of lingerie, romantic games, roleplaying, costumes and trying new or different sexual techniques. Shake things up a bit. Keep it fresh and interesting.
A few words about costuming and roleplaying… It is especially liberating to wear costumes and participate in roleplaying with your partner. Assuming the role of “french maid”, “nurse”, “playboy bunny” or “wanton woman” for your partner is just plain fun. Get into the role you are playing. Ham it up. I always have a great time playing these types of things sort of tongue in cheek. Go ahead, overplay the role. Laughter is extremely erotic and should be a part of every woman’s dance card. Sex is fun! Enjoy it! There are more serious types of roleplaying that can also be part of your repertoirie (if both of you are willing and interested AND if some rules are layed out beforehand). I am referring to bondage and discipline. This sort of activity is certainly not for everyone. Many men and women would object strenously to being bound or hit or hitting another person. There are those, however, who find these things deliciously erotic. Talk with your partner to see how they view these things. Be willing to stretch and experience. Set up a non participatory word that can immediately call a halt to the activity if you are uncomfortable. Just saying “No” may not work if your role is to be tied up and spanked but leprechan is completely out of the scene you are playing (probably - smile). Whatever word you choose, make sure you are both aware of it and use it appropriately. I personally am not into real pain and degradation. If someone called me “Bitch” even in roleplaying, I might just slug them. Another woman may find it thrilling to be a bit abused. Each to their own inclinations. It is all about pleasure, ultimately.
I make few assumptions or judgements about another person’s sexuality, personality, politics, religion or demeanor, especially if it does not effect me directly. I think the world would be a much better place if more folks made the concious decision not to assume or judge.
I will get off my high horse now and return to the subject of lingerie. It is a tool. Examine it, explore it, enjoy using it!
